The book ‘The Four Needs of the Heart’ aims to prepare a child for the arrival of a sibling, while at the same time is a beautifully illustrated reminder of the four key elements that unlock the positive potential in every child and are what is at the foundation of healthy human relationships. Over the next little while, each need will be discussed in an aim to further expand understanding. This week I’m unpacking how to appreciate your kids.
To feel appreciated helps us feel seen. It helps us know that what we do matters and can make a difference. It helps us feel valued for who we are. It’s the people in the world around us giving us positive feedback and recognition of our efforts and of qualities they enjoy about us. Parents, of course, play a big role in helping a child receive positive feedback about themselves. It encourages the good stuff! To feel appreciated feeds our hearts and souls and encourages us to give of ourselves.
Appreciation of your kids can be shown in so many ways – through word and/or deed, giving rise to creativity. To give appreciation is to express gratitude – which is so very important for us to do. It’s saying thank you for another’s efforts. It’s about noticing, being observant and allowing ourselves to be touched, impressed and inspired, by the acts of others and then letting them know – genuinely showing how much they mean to us. In this way, expressing genuine appreciation is an act of giving too. It’s making the effort to let another know that you’ve noticed their efforts and how much they mean to you. You can make another’s day by showing your appreciation. To give, makes us feel good too.
Parents are strong role models who can nurture an attitude of appreciation in their children, by living with this attitude themselves. If parents notice and are appreciative of the good in others and of the world around them, this attitude is more likely to rub off on their offspring. Something not as easy, but equally important, is to teach your kids to appreciate the hard stuff too, because it’s this that makes us stronger and makes us who we are. There are always gifts to be had from our challenges – even if we become aware of them in retrospect. Nurturing an attitude of appreciation and gratitude is good for our soul and good for our mental health.
Note – it’s not about showering our loved ones with insincere appraisal.
You can purchase a copy of the book ‘The Four Needs of the Heart’ via the shop on The Art of Transition’s website. It serves as a great reminder of these 4 vital things and would make a wonderful gift for any family, especially those that are growing!
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