The book ‘The Four Needs of the Heart’ aims to prepare a child for the arrival of a sibling, while at the same time is a beautifully illustrated reminder of the four key elements that unlock the positive potential in every child and are what is at the foundation of healthy human relationships. Over the next little while, each need will be discussed in an aim to further expand understanding. This week I’m unpacking Affection:
Affection – is an action word! It is demonstrative. It’s giving and it’s receiving. It is how we communicate our sincere feelings of warmth, love, fondness, care and the enjoyment we experience when with our loved ones. It’s expressive – not just through touch and gesture, such as a warm embrace, an arm around the others shoulders, holding hands, the tender stroke of a cheek, but also through our facial expressions – such as a loving gaze, a beaming smile and – most importantly, with our words and tone of voice. It’s a state of acting and speaking with kindness, patience, tolerance and belief in the other through thought, word and deed. It’s even in the way we listen – by demonstrating true interest in the other. To receive affection helps us feel loved, supported and cared for. It helps us attach to those close to us and helps us feel connected and safe.
If children are raised in a home where they experience and feel they are loved, wanted and enjoyed – they are far more likely to be able to express kindness, respect and affection towards others they encounter in the world.
You can purchase a copy of the book ‘The Four Needs of the Heart’ via the shop on The Art of Transition’s website. It serves as a great reminder of these 4 vital things and would make a wonderful gift for any family, especially those that are growing!
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